Monday, December 13, 2010
The stockings were hung
Our stockings each have a bit of a story. Mine (first) was a gift from Rob during the Christmas of our engagement. Rob's is from his childhood. Dorothy's (ivory with the silver tree) has eighteen silver hooks sewn on it. Each Christmas Santa brings her a sterling silver charm representing something special about her year, and he hangs it on a hook on the stocking. By her eighteenth Christmas she will have a nice collection of meaningful charms that she can choose to leave on her stocking, or put on a bracelet if she wishes. I like this tradition because it takes up less space than ornaments, and can double as something functional (wearable jewelry) instead of just (pardon me) a box load of crap that she feels like she has to keep until one of us dies. Not to be all anti-sentimental, but I just am not in favor of traditions that burden people with lots of stuff they must store. The cat's stocking is next, and then Worth's. I had a hard time thinking of how to adapt the charm tradition for him, but I did come up with something. His stocking has big circles on it, and eighteen of them are well-centered on the stocking. Santa has purchased a good supply of silver letter beads and will string one word in the center of a circle each year. It's not wearable, but at least it will never take up more room than a stocking. Santa still hasn't decided what word will sum up Worth's first year, though--for some reason "victuals" keeps coming to mind, as that boy is such a big fan of his dinner!
Saturday, December 11, 2010
There's no place like...
Thursday, December 2, 2010
Sweet feet
Looking ahead, I think Dorothy must have an owl pillow similar to these in her new vintage-floral bedroom. I'm pretty sure there is a sheet in that pile just crying out to be an owl pillow. How cute are they?
Monday, November 22, 2010
The caterpillar
I took advantage of the warm weather this morning and did some more camper painting. I still have not had the chance to finish what I started with the handkerchief paisleys, but this morning I made solid progress on the opposite side. I purchased new, good quality brushes and they make all the difference in the world. Maybe I should have thought of that before, but the difference was really amazing. It was like I was trying to chop vegetables with a kiddie knife before! This time the paint went on much better and the lines look more smooth. It was faster going, too, so if I get another golden moment while both children are asleep or occupied and the weather is right I will get back out there. Otherwise, the camper may have to stay incompletely decorated until the spring.
As for our housing situation, who knows. We're working on a response to a set of nit-picky repair requests from our buyer. We made a fair offer on the Good Memories house, but have no particular confidence that the owner is ready for the kind of reality check that would mean taking our reasonable offer. I'm sure something will work out (Renata clutches at optimism), but at this point we're certainly curious about just how that will look.
Friday, November 19, 2010
Boxes
Meanwhile, we have not yet found a home to move into, and time is ticking towards a closing date. Ouch! The house that was not for sale did not work out. We're developing a plan (subject to change after I see a few more houses) that I think will involve a fair offer on the Good Memories house with the caveat that we are not willing to waste time negotiating on our fair offer, and that it will continue to sit lonely and empty while we pursue other options if they do not take it. Our other options are to choose one of the good and decent houses that we would not want to live in for more than, say, five years. Another five year house is fine in some ways--it leaves us open to pick a house we feel will make us more comfortable than our current cramped quarters without having to make a longer-term commitment, but it also raises issues of resale value and move-in readiness. We don't mind putting effort into a house we'd stay in indefinitely but don't want to sink much investment (time or money) into another five year house. We'll see...
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
The waiting is the hardest part
Dorothy and I also made spice cake (we skipped the pecans) from this month's Cooking Light to celebrate selling the house. I guess I overcooked the maple part of the icing a bit because it hardened too quickly and is more like fudge, but it still tastes good. It was nice to take the time for a mother/daughter project in the midst of all this housing hustle.
And speaking of the housing hustle, we still don't know where we're going. I'm starting to, ahem, sort of lose my s#!$ about it, and I'm tired of waiting to know where my family is going to be sleeping next month. The short version of the story is that we made a verbal offer on a house that is not for sale. It is none of the ones I described in my last post. As you might imagine, there is slightly more to the story than that, but I don't feel like detailing in the blog. I don't want to live in the knives and lizards house (besides, did I mention the kitchen there? Bleah!), the good memories house is overpriced, and the dilapidated charmer is really just too dilapidated. We've been waiting since Monday afternoon to hear back, and at this point I'm jumping every time the phone rings. I need to go back and read my own post about not wishing my life away! But housing is a basic need, and even though I realize and am thankful that we are not actually faced with homelessness, with every box I pack in the basement I get more anxious about not knowing where these will be unpacked. Please send me good housing vibes!
Sunday, November 14, 2010
The choices
The Bad Karma House
The bad karma house is practically right around the corner from our current home. It's a very attractive home on a pretty street. I like the way there is a good play space for the kids right next to a good sewing space for me. It's a totally respectable and nicely maintained home that is probably the "smartest" purchase on our list. Your mother would approve. But why the bad karma? I don't know if you'd call it karma or "vibes" or what, but even though I'm not a superstitious person I still feel like I need to have a positive feeling about the home I buy. If I am going to lay my head down in it every night, I want to feel some positive association with the space itself. When we walked up to this home and Rob was inspecting the exterior he found (this is no joke) a butcher knife in the immaculately well-kept front bushes. A butcher knife in the landscaping. Was it left over from Halloween? Was it being used as a hedge-trimming tool? I have no idea. Strange, but we went inside anyway, toured the upstairs and the main floor, noted the acceptable floorplan, etc., then headed down to the basement where there was a small neighborhood lizard writhing miserably in the middle of the floor. In our very path through the basement, there was a lizard dying. I think it actually died while we were down there. So on a tour of this otherwise totally respectable home we a) found a butcher knife in the hedges and b) witnessed the death of a small reptile. I don't need to be a voodoo practitioner to feel like maybe that is just not the house for us, right? Plus, in such a respectable home, could I ever feel comfortable rocking out to classic outlaw country with my family while we cooked and I drank gin? It just didn't have any grit to it at all.
The "Good Memories" House
This is a house we've had our eye on since we put our own on the market. A young couple built it in 1940, raised their family in it, and lived in it until their own deaths, the most recent of which was five years ago. It was well-maintained and has a sunny, cheerful feeling. It's also got the worst 1970s wallpaper you've ever seen. In every single room. Crazy floral patterns in every room, all in shades of yellow and gold except the kitchen where there is (drum roll please) a wallpaper mural of a wharf scene. Still, you know me, I like vintage things and I really love the floorplan of this house. I can totally picture the happy hum of home life my family would have under this roof. I also love the idea of taking up the banner of life in a house that grew old with one loving family. So the problem (besides the damage to my fingernails that a full year of peeling off wallpaper would cause) is that the daughter who grew up in this home and now owns it is completely delusional about what the home is "worth." She loved it, she grew up in it, she watched her parents take good care of it, and now she's asking a completely nutty amount of money for it. So it has sat empty, lonely, cold and unkempt for three years while no one buys it. Someone has cut the grass but not much else. A shutter has come loose, and who knows what has happened to the pipes. I guess we could make a low offer on the house, one that is more in keeping with what the actual real estate market says the home is worth, but we don't have much confidence she'd take it. Then we'd have wasted precious time making an offer that has almost no hope of being accepted. That would leave us in an even bigger hurry to find a house and kind of sad, too, because when you actually make an offer you can't help but to get a little emotionally involved.
Dilapidated Charm
Last but never least, there is a very beautiful home on a very lovely street. We toured it at an open house last winter. We were amazed at how pretty it could be, and our jaws dropped at the amount of work it needed. The kitchen is horrifying, the basement leaks, the roof looks shoddy, the home needs new windows. "What a labor of love," we thought, "for someone who doesn't mind living though all that work." "What a beautiful and charming home for someone who can give it the love it needs." And we walked back out. But the house is on the route of our daily family walk, so each day for approximately eight months we've walked by it. "That house needs someone to love it," we'd say. Then, gradually, a funny thing happened. We hardly wanted to say it out loud, but it became increasingly clear that maybe we were falling in love with it, just a little bit. "We could rent the upstairs apartment," one of us would suggest, "to help with the cost of the renovations." Or "I guess buying a house that needs a lot of work would mean that the people doing the work would get to choose how it turns out, which is much nicer than buying a nice house that is imprinted with someone else's taste." And slowly we realized we were trying to talk ourselves into it, that we did love the house, and that it was at the top of our list of places to move. Then, a few months ago, the real estate sign disappeared from the yard. We were shocked and sad, like the house cheated on us somehow. We asked around; it appeared the house had found a buyer. "At least someone will give it the love it needs," we said, and told ourselves it was for the best. Every day we took our walk, and every day we watched for there to be lights on in the house, or some sign that work had begun, but nothing happened. Then, two weeks ago, right about the time we were deciding to take our home off the market the for sale sign went back up. I swear I'm not superstitious, but just as much as knives and lizards make me feel uncomfortable with the respectable little stone house around the corner, there was a funny flow to the set of events that brought us from "should we take ours off?" to "oh look! The sign is back up in the yard of that beautiful fixer-upper," to "OMG! We've finally got an offer!"
So the knives and lizards house would be a smart buy, the dilapidated charmer would be stupid. Who buys a house they know will be a money pit? Shouldn't transactions like real estate be made with the head more than the heart? So we'll take our final looks at our options tomorrow and then figure something out. A home inspection might shed light on our charmer, and maybe a serious offer would sway our Happy Memories owner more than we think. It might be a nice middle ground? In the meantime, I'm off to pour myself another margarita.
Saturday, November 13, 2010
House house house house house house
Friday, November 12, 2010
We pass the time
Thursday, November 11, 2010
Carbs and a calendar
We're trying not to get our hopes up, since the last time we thought an offer was pending things didn't work out so well. Still, it's been three days and things seem to be progressing. The potential buyer has been back, asked questions, reportedly gotten a mortgage pre-approval. We'll see. A written offer is still pending. I'm trying very hard not to dissolve into an emotional mess, but it's tough. Should I carry on with my plans to change our house? Should I be scouring the real estate websites trying to find a house for us? Should I quickly finish and wrap all my Christmas shopping in case a sudden move disrupts Santa's progress? Eek! So everything feels up in the air, my stomach is quavering, I jump when the phone rings, and I'm craving (and eating) carbs. The picture above is the first of two "cream" sodas I drank yesterday (in a glass Dorothy decorated). Fill a glass with ice, then 3/4 full of plain seltzer, then a dash of vanilla syrup (like the kind coffee shops sell), then top it off with whole milk or cream. Yum. Sugar.
And while the real estate mess has been stressful, this totally made my day! Mama Shell, of Shell Shares Recipes, sent me an amazingly fabulous calendar. It's twelve super-cool pages of illustrations of vintage campers and I love it! My first thought was to put it in the camper, but then I wouldn't get to see it as often, so it's going in my own kitchen (wherever that may be?) so I can drool over how cute they all are every day. Thank you Shell!
Crochet is perfect for fidgety, nervous fingers. I've also found that I have three or four minutes each morning and afternoon to crochet while I'm waiting (parked) in the carpool line for Dorothy. It doesn't seem like a lot of time, but it adds up. I just keep a project ready to pick up in the passenger seat. I'd purchased this fun shiny coat this fall but wasn't sure what kind of accessories to wear with something so...shiny. I decided to go for contrast, so I ordered some really fuzzy alpaca blend yarn. I like the fuzzy with the shiny, and the scarf and hat are warm and soft. I didn't use a pattern, they are both just very simple. I made the hat big enough that it will (hopefully) just sort of sit down on top of my hair without squashing my curls. It's hard for curly girls to wear hats, but this really warm yet lightweight yarn should help.
Saturday, November 6, 2010
My house is a mess and the newspaper pissed me off
I also just have to comment on this ugly article that met me at the breakfast table this morning. I don't understand the so-called "mommy wars" at all. It seems to me that some people take others' strong commitments to a parenting philosophy personally, and feel indicted if they don't share one, whereas the focus of most parenting philosophies is actually on children, not other mommies. If a mother doesn't like a particular philosophy, perhaps she should just avoid using it, instead of suggesting that its existence is undermining decades of progress in women's liberation. Jong seems to miss the point that if a woman disagrees with a philosophy (in this case, attachment parenting), then she is free to ignore it and move on. It is only if she actually finds it compelling and thinks in her heart that she should be following it (or doing something differently) that it has any sway over her at all. If she does not find a philosophy compelling, then the fact that other mothers practice it should not even be on her radar--parenting is a very personal quest, not a contest, and mothers do not have to register their commitment to any particular set of values anywhere.
I am grateful for a community that allows me to parent the way I feel is right. Sometimes that is an accord with one particular parenting book or another, and sometimes it is not. I know women who largely share my parenting views and work full-time at demanding jobs. I know others who stay home and share none of my philosophies. I am glad that in this garbled world of feminism, post-feminism, and feminism-yet-to-come that I can stay home and tend my family's metaphorical fires without feeling like I have something to prove. I stay home because that is what feels right to me. I enjoy contributing to my family's economy in the kitchen, at my sewing machine, and out of my crochet bag. I hold a masters degree from a prestigious university and if I felt like that piece of paper forced me out of the spot that makes me happy, then that would be enslavement. To each her own. I can't imagine any child would be better off staying home with a mother who felt stranded in the role. Nor do I think women should work outside the home just because that's what they thought they would do when they were 22 and made expensive educational choices. It's a big world--can't we make room for all the choices that are as varied and ever-changing as the individuals who make up our current generation of mothers?
Thursday, October 21, 2010
Pumpkins
In between house-showings and pumpkin patches this week I did something that makes me feel really smug and obnoxious--I ordered my Christmas cards! I know it's early, but it was this gorgeous afternoon, the kids were playing out front, and from the basement I'd just unearthed the holiday dress I'd purchased on clearance last year for Dorothy. It has a matching dress for her doll, which is always extra special. Dorothy saw it and had herself and her dolly dressed in no time, so I popped the baby into this little fleece Santa suit left from Dorothy's babyhood, and clicked away. I got adorable photos of both kids in their holiday get-ups, so I figured I might as well finish the task while I was on it and selected a pretty photo card online. Now bring it on, season-accelerating commercial world, I'm ready for you! Before you even change your displays from spooky to Santa, my holiday cards are done. Pow!
I am a dork, but you are reading my blog--please love me anyway. :)
Thursday, October 14, 2010
A busy week
Then on Wednesday, the very busiest and most hectic day of the week, as I was recovering from the new refrigerator blues but beginning to suffer a sore throat, Dorothy informed me at approximately the halfway point on our drive home from preschool that IT WAS THE DAY, the very special and most important day, that she got to take the traveling classroom gingerbread person home, and that she had accidentally left [him? her?] at school. I considered making the gingerbread person wait until we were already back at the very same building for choir practice later that night, but instead I rallied my inner good mother and turned the car back around. "Gingy" was fetched, along with [his? her?] tote bag, and brought on home with us. Gingy listened to our daily chapter from the Little House on the Prairie book, then settled down with Dorothy for a nap. A couple hours later it was time almost time to leave for ballet lessons and I realized I should look in Gingy's journal to see just what was expected of us with regard to this plush traveling pastry. About a half dozen of Dorothy's peers had already brought Gingy home (Gingy visitation being determined by drawing names), and those students' caring and creative mothers had written long and lovely essays about Gingy's stays with their families. Things like "in honor of Gingy, we made gingerbread cake!" and long tales of Gingy-inspired adventures. Those bitches, I thought. Never mind that enthusiastic parent involvement is actually one of the things I treasure about our preschool. All the mommies who get Gingy after us will love me, though, because I took things in the journal down a notch or two out of necessity. We sent Gingy back today with just a few brief sentences about our busy day and one potentially embarrassing (given Gingy's uncertain gender) home-printed photograph of Gingy wearing a pink tutu.
Returning to my regular blogging business, these Lego cufflinks were a Christmas gift to Rob last year. They are Legos from his own childhood, and I glued them to cufflink platforms I purchased from a jewelry supply store online. He loves wearing unusual cufflinks, and there aren't very many opportunities to make gifts for him. I snapped a picture of them when he was on his way out the door this morning.
Thursday, September 2, 2010
For the freezer
Our carefree days of summer are coming to a close. Rob and I attend preschool orientation tomorrow and Dorothy begins next Tuesday. Today the girl spent all day with my husband's parents swimming in their neighborhood pool, which will close after this weekend. She told me emphatically she was not planning on doing flips in the water today because she has a runny nose. Somehow I doubt she maintained her position on that issue. I spent most of the day in the kitchen getting ready for our new routine. I made some chicken tortilla soup for the freezer, for heat-and-eat lunches at the weather gets cooler. I love soup for lunch in the fall, but I have never found any canned soup worth eating that doesn't have tons of sodium, MSG, or both. (If you know of one, leave me a comment!) So homemade soup in freezer jars it is.
Then I spent some time sprucing up Dorothy's room, since though she won't take it with her, it seemed like a nice thing to give her a pleasant and orderly jumping-off-spot. I laundered, pressed and rehung her curtains, washed her bed quilt, and tidied up her space a bit. Then I made a double batch of oatmeal pancakes for the freezer so I can feed her breakfast quickly without resorting to packaged food. I put freezer paper slips between them so they won't become one solid pancake brick in the freezer--it will be easy to grab just one or two.
I've prepped a Moroccan-style stew for tonight, with bread from the bread machine on the side, and I when I went to pre-cook my chickpeas I realized, ugh, that my pressure cooker was among the things I had to pack away when we put stuff in storage a couple weeks ago. Bummer. Fortunately I had canned chickpeas in the pantry, since you never know when you'll need an emergency batch of hummus, but it's rather frustrating. We did have a showing last weekend, but the prospective buyers claimed disappointment regarding our lack of a garage. And I have to say this is a bit confusing to me, since it states very clearly in our listing that the house has no garage. Maybe they thought we didn't mean it?
Thursday, August 12, 2010
Bonding and packing
Dorothy told me the other day that "it is hard to have a brother who is always here. I liked it better when he was inside your belly. I liked feeling him kick. I liked that better than seeing him kick." I managed not to laugh out loud. In spite of the fact that it truly is "hard" sometimes for Dorothy to make the adjustment to being one of two, she also in reality totally loves her brother. I'm confident she'll realize it later. She is almost losing the ability to play contentedly on her own--she spends the majority of her free time singing to him, playing with him, loving on him, abusing him, putting him in mortal peril. He rewards all of the above by thinking she's the greatest thing on earth. If she walks away he sobs. I caught this picture of them today, and I love the way they are enjoying each other.
No crafting for us today. The new realtor has ushered in an era of Major Change that is starting with us rearranging our lives so the house will show better and will hopefully end with us unpacking joyfully in a new space. "It is hard," to quote my daughter, to pack up useful items from our overcrowded kitchen without knowing when we will see them again (my Cuisinart!), but fortunately my experience volunteering with refugees has taught me that I'd basically be a complete Thursday, July 29, 2010
A jar cozy
This isn't a new project, but just one I was using and enjoying. Last summer I crocheted cozies for the repurposed glass juice jars we use for water. I put little handles on them and they are very cute and portable, and they both insulate the jar and keep it from getting broken if I want to grab one on the go. It felt like a nice way to use up (gifted) scratchy acrylic yarn I wouldn't want to wear or put on my babies. I just crocheted a little mat the size of the bottom of the bottles, then did double crochets in a round all the way up the side. I used several stands of yarn together so it would be extra bulky.In other news, we're really enjoying our hiatus from house-selling. Our goal is to have it back on the market in two weeks, but in the meantime it's nice to not have the constant threat of a showing hanging over our heads. In a funny turn of events, however, the house is actually pretty clean right now because I just bought a steam mop and Dorothy and I are both so charmed by it that we keep using it. I love the idea of being able to keep the floor clean and chemical-free as our little wee one becomes more mobile and has the floor as his new realm. We'll just hope the charm of using the mop doesn't wear off in a couple months. (Ha!)
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Taking it up a notch
Isn't it great? A friend sent it (a thrift store score, she said) and it totally made my day.
"Faith can move mountains...and homes!!!" I feel better already. We'll sell. It'll feel like the right time when it happens. And then I can start the battles with my little budding interior designer who feels like her brother's new room, in whatever home we eventually move to, should be painted red, blue, green, purple, pink and gray.



















